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Post by ray on Jun 1, 2002 8:10:20 GMT -5
Hi Awakened!!!!!!!!!!!! I understand what you wanna say!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, it doesn;t happen with everyone but with whomever it happens with, it does fade I feel esp after you get it!!!!!!!!! Just a personal experience:)
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Post by Awakened on Jun 3, 2002 12:21:18 GMT -5
Milena - It just so happens that I can't just stand by and watch this happen so I am going to let this person know my feelings - what happens after then maybe down to fate/destiny or whatever but I feel I am lying to myself unless I do something about it - it feels wrong not to do anything. Could be painful, though.
Ray - take your point but there is something so deep that despite the fading of passion, maybe, (I've seen passion fade in both of my marriages) there is something inspiring and wanting that for me goes beyond passion and I can't block it.
Love and light.
A.
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Post by Niteflyr on Jun 29, 2003 19:04:56 GMT -5
Hi all....this has been an interesting topic for me for a number of years. And..short story....we are all soulmates to a degree...as we all come from the same womb of creation. And since it is proven that matter is vibrating energy...we all resonate to a degree...
It makes since to me that there is "twin soul" that was split off from us in our "beginning"...(I look at this all metaphorically/symbolically as well as literally/physically....)...our closest "other"...one whom we resonate with at the highest level. Some spend a lifetime seeking this form of relationship...others have no desire for the intensity. And it would be to me a sexual connection...as sexual energy is, I feel, the primary creative force in the universe....all life springs from it. In reference to Richard and Leslie...I was concerned when Richard had said in "Bridge" that he "hadn't noticed her (Leslie) from the neck down" for quite a while. While he and Leslie had an intense intellectual connection..(bonding over a chess-board)...I don't think there was enough sexual resonation to consider their connection to be anywhere near a "twin soul" one.... and would wonder if his new wife and he had a different beginning.... While modern psychology tries to remove the unexplainable from daily living as "dysfuntional behavior and/or thinking"...(see the movies "Bliss" and "Happy Accidents"...both examples of what I am talking about...) I have to disagree and say that if your significant other doesn't make your "heart go pitter patter.." ...they probably are a lesser-level soulmate...but not a twin-flame....
Any thoughts?....
Namaste....Niteflyr
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Post by GUEST on Jun 30, 2003 12:22:30 GMT -5
If we all came from the same "womb", which I agree with, well then, we are all equal soulmates, split at the moment of separation. This makes a "lesser-level" soulmate impossible since we all came from one. Each one of equal worth and importance to another. Depending upon where OUR INDIVIDUAL focus is will determine our attractions to certain souls and not others. Calling one "lesser" is egotistical ignorance and creates a hierarchy of souls, which of course, the ego loves because then it can compare and call some lesser than others...not good or bad, but more subtle layers of comparison... comparisons nonetheless.
If the focus changes of an individual so will their attractions. Thus the feeling of being a soulmate with another(whatever you describe a soulmate feeling to be) can and does change with the individual and may disappear with that other if change is not mutual. Change is the way of the universe and individuals that we label as "soulmates" could simply be highly flexible, changeable souls that have agreed to change together and not fight the current, so to speak. Just some thoughts and opinions.
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Post by sag on Aug 2, 2003 1:15:12 GMT -5
well what if deep down you feel some special connection with someone and you think that you know this is it this is your "soulmate".and you just happen to be physically attracted to this person aswell. would you really be able to tell if what you feel for this person isn't just lust. i agree that it is slightly imporant to have a physical relationship with someone because there's just a closeness there that you can't get any other way but how do you really desphier lust from love... (just talking)
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Post by The Wild Card on Aug 6, 2003 19:52:05 GMT -5
Let's face it, a shag is a shag.
Sex is fantastic.
But at the end of the day does a fox ask for his partners number (or her number).
God (whatver you conceive 'it' to be) is your ultimate soulmate manifested in a trillion forms on this physical plane of being.
All people are potential soul mates and manifestations of 'God' ; i take soul mate to be another individual with whom communication can happen without language being an obstacle. Where pure understanding can take place. We mistake the sex act for being it, becauase pleasure needs no words. When a love for someone is stamped with sex it's all too easy to accept christian notions of a true life perfect partner for all of our one life. Since this fails (as one person cannot fulfill every expectation) we get upset and cry out, blaming one poor sod for our own ignorance.
Soulmates to me are any soul who truly touches our soul. Sex is just a recreational sport. The two get confused. Generally speaking.
And when we meet a soulmate we have great sex with. it's just a plus. But nothing stays the same for ever. Everhthing changes. If individuals could find peace within themselves then this message board wouldn't happen.
Our relatiionships with individuals merely reflect our relationship with The Divine. Sort that out, and everything falls into place.
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Post by The Wild Card on Aug 6, 2003 19:54:34 GMT -5
Oh and boy did that sound condescending. Wasn'tmeant that way. \But hey, ho
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Post by bo on Aug 10, 2003 14:37:40 GMT -5
bo : So you have your soulmate and your'e living laughing and loving then suddenly and unexpectedly that thing we know as a "thief in the middle in the middle of the night" snatches them out of your life. The wind is gone from your sails, life is empty........... ? Any ideas?
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Post by sag on Sept 8, 2003 17:01:44 GMT -5
The only advise i have for you bo is you should never let anyone have enough athority to make you feel empty! what ever the situation might be just remember that as long as your still breathing you can change your life and feel how you want obviusly this wasn't the person for you so the only thing you can do is live on... keep on keepin on and the rest will follow keep your head high and your dreams and aspirations higher.feel sure, be confident, desire, wish, look forward to, long for, dream of, be hopeful, have faith, look on the bright side and always take heart into everything you do or feel ! the best of luck to your future!
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Post by Morgan on Jan 3, 2004 19:41:00 GMT -5
Adding my ramblings to the comments of others posted here :-) .... I am, and have been for, um, more years than I care to admit , a firm believer in soul mates. I'm also a firm believer in living your life so that, even if you never pair up with one, you'll still be fulfilled. In my younger years, nothing devastated me more than the end of a relationship. I just happened across some poetry I wrote in my teens after a break up, and gods, if goths had been "in" back then I might have made a good one :-). My second husband and I were, and still are to an extent, soulmates (my first marriage only lasted a few months, never should have happened, and I mostly tend to think of my technical second marriage as my first real marriage). However, for many reasons both good and not, we eventually went our separate ways. We're still on good terms, but we've realized we get along much better when not trying to be husband and wife. Several years later, I met my current husband. "Whirlwind" doesn't do our relationship justice, though we'd known each other online for over a year as friends with no idea that it would ever go further. Then we started corresponding outside the group we met through, realized in a week we were in love, met in person three weeks after that, and he moved across country to marry me two months later that. That was six years ago last summer, and we're still as much (if not more) in love and happy together as ever. We are, without question, soulmates. Does this mean the feeling I had of being soulmates with my previous husband was wrong? Not at all. Does it mean that my beloved and I will never decide to go our separate ways? I'm not clairvoyant enough to say for sure, but I sure hope we're together "from this life to the next." One thing I do know, though, is that for the first time in a serious relationship, I *know* that I'd be able to go on were I to lose him. It would be heartbreaking, but I know I'd still have his love with me, and that I'd be able to manage. And that's something I've never had in another relationship. In terms of "putting your best face forward" for a potential mate, my advice is 'don't.' At least, not once you know it might get serious enough for marriage/children. My husband and I, in those first days and weeks when we wondered if we were crazy for falling in love with someone we'd never met in person, decided that if anything was going to derail the relationship we wanted it out in the open *before* making an emotional investment. We spent hours on the phone telling each other all of our little foibles, likes and dislikes, bad habits, warts and all. I even emailed my ex and asked him what things he'd tell someone if he wanted to "warn" them about me (and if that's not having a good relationship with an ex, I don't know what is :-)). What we discovered was that we had a lot in common, like both being fussy eaters but both liking (mostly) the same things. So I guess the short form is, in my opinion, soulmates exist. If you find one, treasure them, nurture the relationship, appreciate them, and, if fate takes you in different directions, don't stop caring about them (from what I've seen online, this looks like what Richard and Leslie have done). If you don't find one, appreciate life anyway, and the people in it who may not feel like "soulmates" but who are each one precious nonetheless. Be the person you want to be, and maybe someone else who wants to be with that person will come along. At least you'll be enjoying yourself while you wait :-). Morgan /|\ There is only one blasphemy, and that is the refusal to experience joy. --Paul Rudnick
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Post by Kerry on Jun 8, 2004 2:33:03 GMT -5
To me, soulmates implies the most intimate connection possible. Outside of Star Trek, true intimacy seems to be experienced in a sexual way. This is not absolute, but connecting with another person in such an intimate way, and sharing a child with another human being, is as close as it gets.
I readily admit that it seems arbitrary that souls are put into random packages and that it is conceiveable soulmates are of the same, or different, sexes in a non-intimate relationship.
All things are possible; the percentages lie with a romantic relationship.
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Post by Exbeliever on Sept 24, 2004 16:13:58 GMT -5
Today, I wonder if there is such a thing as one soulmate. On different levels, I share a 'soul' relationship with different people. My husband, who I thought is / was my one and only soulmate, I now find while I still am in love with him and love him, the people who I share a deeper relationship with today are my old school friends who I have maintained contact with! Also, when reaching out to people you connect on diff levels with ur soul...so now I really dont believe in one soulmate, but rather in diff souls at diff levels. Does anyone here understand that?
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Post by Venu on Oct 4, 2004 23:00:25 GMT -5
Why? Why should we search for a soulmate first of all? If the world is perfect, if we believe everything is as it should be, no need to have a soulmate, no need to outcast someone from our lives..I mean, anyone can be our soulmate if we care enough to understand it, right?? The problem is that I, personally speaking, tend to cling on to my so called soulmate irrespective of whatever that person is, and I'm afraid of believing that everyone else is as good as my soulmate is. I'm not ready to let go and trust anyone else. And I say, there can be only one soulmate for a person. Maybe the truth is that there is no such thing as a soulmate. How does it sound? Cheers, Venu.
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