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Post by milena on Mar 1, 2002 7:54:26 GMT -5
Does your soulmate-should you be lucky enough to find them in this lifetime and recognise them!- do they have to be a sexual partner? I think not and my reasons why on a later post but I was wondering what everyone else thought. And if your soulmate is not your sexual partner does that diminish your relationship with that partner or is it possible to have more that one soul mate ( not to sure on this one!) Just wondering!
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Post by LL on Mar 1, 2002 10:30:10 GMT -5
My thoughts on this are from a very large perspective. I look at everyone as a soulmate...we're all in this together and at some level we all agreed to meet here(there are no coincidences). In my view if we did not agree to meet, well then, we dont. We each have a gift for each other if nothing more than a "chance" hello and a smile just to raise some spirits. Even those that we may despise have a wonderful gift to offer...the gift of allowing us to experience a part of the whole of life, which includes, believe it or not, the experience of despising another. We do not have to choose to despise them but the opportunity is there nonetheless and allows one to look inside and say "what is the reason behind my despising this individual?" Deeper and deeper we look and soon the feeling subsides and another discovery is made about who we are... What better gift is there? Finding a soulmate is like finding anything else...if you are looking then you cannot possibly find because the act of looking produces that experience...looking, searching, seeking. You may eventually find them, when you get tired of searching and finally choose to realize that you didn't have to look because they were there all along. This, in my opinion, is called trusting. Trusting that before I even ask, it has already been answered, I just have to notice and not start looking for the answer to my question. Now on to the sex thing...Sex, again in my opinion, is an incredible experience that we can have here. What other physical way can you experience such togetherness with another? I think that if the attraction is there for both individuals then just flow with it and let it take you where it will. If the sexual attraction is not there...well, that should take nothing away from a relationship. If it does then one or the other of the individuals has discovered another reason to look inside and discover why...another gift from another soulmate. Just look around and notice all the things that are your soulmates... your pets, plants, your planet and yes, even that person that you walk by everyday, make eye contact with, and quickly look away from...Give 'em a smile...not because you feel you have to, but because you truly feel the connection of it all. Just my 2, as usual. LL
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Post by polarbear on Mar 2, 2002 7:35:39 GMT -5
Well for me a soulmate does not need to be a sexual partner. It could well be it all depends on the person.I have found a soulmate who gives me the enrgy to find feelings in myself which i never thought were there.I was not looking for a soulmate but i met a person who was able to reach my inner thoughts without trying,being around this person is the most wonderfully feeling. My thoughts seem to be known by this person before i speak or do anything.My soulmate arrived in the shape of something beautiful for which i am most greatful, simply because, if i had been looking i would never have found this person the way i did. As for the sexual part well, from my point we spend alot of time apart but yet the the strenght and bonding are as if we were together. So Milena these are just my thoughts and i'm not even sure if they make sense to everyone, as for the other person well all i can say is that our thoughts, ideas, plans and dreams all seem to head in the same direction. Thats all for now. Polarbear
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Post by milena on Mar 2, 2002 13:34:13 GMT -5
LL - thought provoking as usual. Just when I think I´m playing Devil´s advocate quite well you come along and remind me to stop being so black and white and to look at the bigger picture. Thank you.
Polarbear - As for anyone not understanding I think that if you express something from your soul then it will be understood by other souls who listen and choose to learn. Thank you for choosing to share your thoughts with us and may you and your soul mate journey and learn well.
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Post by LL on Mar 4, 2002 13:15:20 GMT -5
Well, I wouldn't say to stop being so black and white because that is what leads us to answers. I would say to be black and white but to be open for other solutions. If we say that black is the one and only answer, it leaves no room for white and also leaves an individual "stuck". Stuck in their interpretation and leaving no other possibilities, which will allow them to never notice white as even existing, although it is there along with all of the possibilities that exist in-between black and white as well. Question everything, know nothing...this leads to answers.... many, many answers, not just one. LL
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Post by ray on May 17, 2002 14:14:51 GMT -5
you give more than what you get, you work harder than your partner to make things better, you devote yourself to your relationship and inspite of all you dont get back enough, i guess thats the time, when a person feels the need to separate.I guess its not wrong!
life is give and take!!!!!!!!
your values dont match or your principles differ!!!!! or it could be, you just got fed up of eachother and separate!!!!!!!! anything is possible, this islife!!!!!!!!!! you have a choice to make, thats all!
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Post by ray on May 17, 2002 14:22:54 GMT -5
i guess no one gets divorced just for the heck of it, all have committed and definitely work to make things better.Sometimes it might not just work!!!!!!!!!!!!! I guess all the things in this world are the result of efforts !!!!!!!!!!!1 no efforts no results, same with soulmates! sometimes you just get busy with career and start taking things for granted and someother times you might just get lazy to put in any effort!!!!!!!!!! soulmates are no made for eachothers. i feel they are what they make of eachother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by milena on May 20, 2002 4:55:13 GMT -5
I like your last comment. That´s what I like most people looking at things in a different way because if you are open to new things you can learn from anyone, anywhere at any time.
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Post by ray on May 21, 2002 4:03:31 GMT -5
Hi, Milena! Glad to see you Thanks for sharing your views~! ray
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Post by milena on May 29, 2002 5:21:15 GMT -5
We are all soul mates because we are all one...the good the bad and the ugly.......If this is true then how am I a soul mate for the people I perceive as evil in this world....or is it more that I am a soul mate with all the people in my world?
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Post by robboniwell@hotmail.com on May 29, 2002 9:31:32 GMT -5
Interesting to read your thoughts on soul mates.
Firstly, what do you perceive as a soul mate?
Secondly what do you perceive as a Twin Soul?
Thirdly - I know we are all individuals, connected yes, but individuals and react to situations and events in different ways - so how do you feel when you meet your supposed "soul mate"?
Is it a feeling of calmness, a feeling of euphoria, a feeling of "coming home", a feeling of magnetic attractiveness? I'm not sure. I can only tell you about the experience I feel when I meet a close friend of my ex-wife, with whom I'm sure I have some kind of intense spiritual connection.
What I believe is that id the person is your twin soul, you will feel attracted to them and want to be with them like nothing else in the world matters, whether that is perceived to be sexually attracted is a matter of conjecture.
Robin.
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Post by ray on May 29, 2002 10:07:44 GMT -5
Yes, we do get attracted to a few people and we wanna be with them.It might be one of the feelings which we experience when we see a new and beautiful thing...maybe awe and admiration or maybe we feel one with them and as a human we wanna have it or own it.I guess its the same with soulmates. As with any other emotion, even this fades once we own it!Its like achieving something you badly wanted and when we get it, its then that a new responsibility begins........everything takes effort to maintain:)Let it be any relationship.Its all about how much you care from then on.
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Post by ray on May 29, 2002 10:11:16 GMT -5
Yes, we do get attracted to a few people and we wanna be with them.It might be one of the feelings which we experience when we see a new and beautiful thing...maybe awe and admiration or maybe we feel one with them and as a human we wanna have it or own it.I guess its the same with soulmates. As with any other emotion, even this fades once we own it!Its like achieving something you badly wanted and when we get it, its then that a new responsibility begins........everything takes effort to maintain:)Let it be any relationship.Its all about how much you care from then on.
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Post by Awakened on May 30, 2002 3:14:27 GMT -5
Hi Ray...
But what happens when you feel attracted to someone and there mere thought of them opens you so you feel out of this world, let alone when you actually meet them face to face?
It's impossible to say whether this feeling will disappear in time without experiencing it. What if you tried your damnest to think about other numerous attractive partners but this one person shoots bolts of electricity through you by just looking into their eyes and yet noone else you ever met in the entire world can do that to you?
Is it a sign? Is it a message coming through saying "Listen pal, here she/he is. You're gonna have to do something or they're just gonna walk on past out of your (this) life". Are our guides saying "Come on, do something, we've brought you to her/him"
Maybe we shouldn't do anything because if things were meant to be, they would happen regardless, without the need to share thoughts and ideas with others.
It seems that the decisions are the hardest things to make. Something feels magnetic and right, yet only decisions, some of them painful, will only possible make it happen and even then, will it happen today?
Thought provoking and interesting.
Love A.
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Post by milena on May 30, 2002 5:40:41 GMT -5
Rob - A soul mate to me is someone/something with whom there is no pretense....some one/something I can show my feelings to and who will not only laugh with me but at times will laugh at me
- A twin soul would be someone/something that runs with the same ideas as I do and who percieves the world through the same shape window.
- I have reacted to my soulmates with a feeling pf peace and to one soul mate who was also a twin soul with a feeling of coming home. But as you say we are all individuals.
Ray - not too sure how I run with the idea of wanting to own a soulmate...it doesn´t sit right for me.
Awakened - if you choose not to do anything when your soul mate walks by then maybe that is right as is doing something when they walk by it all depends on how you view a situation at the time. All you can be is true to yourself and if what you do is the highest truth you know then all will be right in your world.
love and laughter MilenaX
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