Post by to Alaya22 on Oct 21, 2003 11:41:23 GMT -5
Is it strange to miss your soulmate whom you have never met? Or does this mean I am just feeling lonely and incomplete?
Sometimes we believe in answers because we don't have any other choice, and sometimes because we had always have known it somewhere within us. To miss our soulmate is not strange and it is. Let's consider these :- 1) Why it isn't strange ? :- Because we chose to do so. The kind of truth and quality that a soulmate has is not exactly the way we imagine; our imagination is limited. Our picture of a soulmate is described as per specifications manual and is defined by our own perception of what a soulmate should be like than what he/she truly is. All the time the soulmate is pure and absolute truth of a heart, and all the time the only thing we do is to put him/her into physical dimension; the fake. I have terribly missed my soulmate in past,which led to the question why do I miss her. The answer was simple, because I love her. When I or you would love a soulmate, the love of that kind has the first quality or beauty of completion by a soul to a soul that completes the image of truth rather than the image of illusion. Ironically our soulmate on the otherhand too is illuded and stuck with the same thing looking fr us. Each moment of dream that we don't remember but we know we felt our respective soulmates fade away as we wake up and go to our morning jobs. We have given our jobs more relaity than the soulmates existance. I have noticed, that we never have confidence on our soulmates. Why there's is fear in yor love. Till the time there is, t is not basolutely true. And when love isn't absolutely true it is just another worldly love that has often left us searching. Our soulmates and you to him like absolute love and not the incomplete version;so don't have that fear of uncertainity because if you feel he is, he really damn is. And till the time you are uncertain he will take time,which inturn would make you even more restless and unsure;then you'll need a next life. The more time you spend in this cycle, the more you'll miss him. Now, because we all are like this at some point of time, it is really not strange to miss our soulmates we have'nt seen. ...Alaya, when you meet someone but you realise he's not the one you should be happy, because then you know that your true "he" is better than that and he knows he has to be better than that because you are the best for him. 2) Why it is ?:- The one you love should always be the one you must not intemix with your desire. This is difficult to achieve but once done, love becomes by rising rises above from the two down to earth factors, obsessiveness and possesivness. "Love is Universal" so let it be. When he comes to your life, you would surely be felt loved and more secure. So who'm do you love the most ? Him or your own self ? I spotted where I was wrong. a) I missed her because I didn't get that kind of love from anyone that I imagined, I flet incomplete. It is interesting to notice that focus of my love is entirely on the fact that "Im not getting true love" rather than "I want to give true love to someone" b) I missed her because I was not geeting a sense of security though I had my own dreamland,which often I never talked out to anyone else,I had no one to talk. The focus here is on "I want to talk to someone who understands me" rather tahn "I can understand someone who hasn't been". I'd been focusing to get on a sense of security rather than to provide. I forgot that my soulmate who truly is, must have already thought all about comforting me. "Am I focusing on my self and calling it a soulmate? " I aksed to myself. "Ya dude! and you call all it as something which is true love for your soulmate. Tell me how are you gonna get'er if you aint gona loose even a dime of thought about comforting your own self ?" said the hay in my brain. But this hay worked and I'm thankful to it. It's crazy but its true that any one I meet now I love'em truly from al my heart. No one has clicked with me yet, but this makes me even more proud of the one I have wished and loved so truly. And before I meet her this is just a way that is letting me know how much love I have in all for her that she deserves. The more I'm loving the closer I know I'll be perfecting in loving her absolutely. I don't consider what will happen to my sense of security, because in all this beautiful hope, this idea is too faint. I know she's there may be just talking out over a coffee to your soulmate about us. "Impatience leads to impertinance" said I in my dream once.... Pardon me for my spelling mistakes but I hope you have understood what I've tried to tell you, if not completely then partially..
Love is when another person's happiness is integral to your own (definition courtesy another of my favorite writers, RAH). In my experience, the best relationships are when everyone involved spends more time/energy on the other person's happiness than their own. If only one person does this, it doesn't work, and can get pretty ugly. But if you both (all) do this, then everyone's happiness/wellbeing is being looked out for.
There's a joy in knowing that someone cares for you as much as if not more than themselves, and it frees you to care for them without having to worry about yourself because you know you're being cared for. I know, I'm rambling, but I find it a simple concept in practice but a hard one to describe in print :-).
All I know for sure is, it's worked for us for 6+ years with no signs of tapering off :-).
How do you define questions? As in the meaning of it all, truth about us and the universe, or smaller questions, as well?
To start to think about any simple thing that I never did earlier and took it for granted...
And to find truth means to give meaning to false, In truth, may be nothing is false because all is "Is" and for this reason all is also false. So it doesn't make sense to me right now, but it gives me peace to always remember this. And because of this I'm out of quesitons and because, even the most correct answer is being created(even though answers are already there)
I guess I'm running around in cirles .. lets see (I hope its spiral instead and I am able to reach the center)