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Post by JTwolf on Mar 20, 2005 13:51:46 GMT -5
a true SoulMATE will change with you because that person is the other part of you. Like your arms, they go with you or you with them, inseperable. You both always have the same goals.....maybe one didn't realize it until the other moved in this or that direction, but once movement is started, they realize, or KNOW, rather, that that is the only direction they ever wanted to go. [glow=red,2,300]Because of AND in spite of.[/glow] They together are a whole....even if the one or both felt whole before joining.....they are more whole than whole after joining....... Your own spirit is you. And if one is truely happy being alone with just themself, then happy happy joy joy! But for the most of us, there is a partner that is created just for us.....them for me, me for them. And we go back however many lifetimes until our first meeting, or maybe just this lifetime is our first meeting and we will have many to come.....By the way, your own spirit should be your soulmate as well, because your own spirit is YOU! And one should love themselves unconditionally, respect themselves always, be 100% honest with themselves, be not grudgefull of themselves.......hmmmmm, kinda sounds like what one should be to their mate! If one can't be that to oneself, how can one expect to be that to somone else??? So yes, you must be your own soulmate first.
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Post by Bluebird on Mar 20, 2005 15:13:52 GMT -5
I don't believe a soulmate has to be exactly like oneself. And now I talk about characteristics, opinions and beliefs, not about the energy we're all made of, because in that sense we're all like each other. I would not learn so much from a person very like me. I need challenges, thoughts that stop me in motion, making me think of things in new, different ways. Someone who surprises me with "you're right, it can be done so, too!"
So, a rough recipe for a soulmate for me would be: take 50% of essence of me (my higher self), 25% of the opposite to me and 25% of pure joy, blend well and create a cake whatever shape you want. Glace with love and sprinkle with surprises. Ready for enjoyment any time!
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Post by JTwolf on Mar 20, 2005 16:03:31 GMT -5
Totally agree Bluebird!......I wonder, did you maybe not get what I was meaning when I said>
Not meaning ones soulmate should be exactly like oneself......actually, I was speaking about....for example, me. My own spirit should be my soulmate, because my spirit is ME! and I should love myself unconditionally, and all the rest......then I went on to say that that sounds like how one should love their mate, meaning another person.....or their soulmate, if you will. Probably clarifying what really didn't need to be clarified! I tend to do that at times.......when I get to going on to much, my local friends just look at me and say...."yeaaaahhhhhhhhh" *grin*...Okay, I'll shut up now! ;D
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Post by JTwolf on Mar 20, 2005 16:04:39 GMT -5
PS......Love your recipe! Sounds like a recipe for success!!
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Post by Edina on Mar 20, 2005 16:18:18 GMT -5
Beautifully said Bluebird!! Now, some silly questions from me... Do you have an expiry date for the cake? Or it lasts forever? Is it possible that you'll change any of the ingredients in the future to make the cake more delicious?
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Post by Michelle on Mar 20, 2005 18:58:38 GMT -5
JT, thanks for checking out our site. We really appreciate it. If you get a chance to buy the book, please let us know what you think of it! Keep in mind, it was originally written for older teens/college age, but once you get past the silly stuff, you'll probably really like the analogies and philosophy! My sister XT says hello. If you'd like to discuss Hawking, you can find her email on our site. I really don't want to post an email on a message board. The soulmate subject is one of my fave to discuss. It's always interesting to read the varying ideas and thoughts on the subject. Take care all, Michelle TheMaams.com
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Post by Bluebird on Mar 21, 2005 2:35:41 GMT -5
Edina, the ingredients are so strong and good the cake will last forever. ;D Seriously, you asked some good questions. I can only believe and trust it will last forever. I am sure that the ingredients can be changed, as long as the essence of the cake stays the same. Besides, not everyone likes the cake the same way I do.
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Post by Edina on Mar 21, 2005 10:57:17 GMT -5
You're making me hungry over here... After this conversation, I may decide to bake one too.
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Post by Thinker on Mar 23, 2005 5:00:10 GMT -5
Same person, but another part? Shouldn't be that your own spirit then? There are no mates 100% alike, one way or the other, one has to sacrifice. Isn't that why we tend to call our partner "our better half"? ;D But really... I agree that no mates are 100% alike, but to say that "one hast to sacrifice" would be a bit radical. Sacrifice sounds too negative. I'd say that if you feel like you fit together, you are voluntarily willing to give up certain things, because you love eachother so much and you want to be together? But it's a two-way street, it ALWAYS is a two-way street. It should never come from one direction, so you both come half way to make your Life and Existence together work out. You get what you give.
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Post by Grave on Mar 23, 2005 5:48:37 GMT -5
Opposites Attract
Souls choose to be soulmates in order to learn and grow more (towards completion). I guess if we complete a task successfully with a partner, we never come back with him/her, but with a new partner to learn those things that we haven’t touched yet and vice versa.
I once wished my soulmate to be 100% like me, but I haven’t learned all (at all)
A soul mate is a closest teacher and student you’d ever have.
Grave(Soul)
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Post by Thinker on Mar 23, 2005 6:08:24 GMT -5
I guess if we complete a task successfully with a partner, we never come back with him/her What makes you think that? Haven't you ever had the feeling that you "know" someone, even if you haven't met him/her before? Can't it be so that - even if you have completed a tast successfully with one partner - in a following Life we encounter that same person again in some form and share another Life, or part of it with him/her?
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Post by Grave on Mar 23, 2005 6:27:20 GMT -5
What makes you think that? Haven't you ever had the feeling that you "know" someone, even if you haven't met him/her before? Hi thinker, Yes I have felt it. It is true. Actually what I wrote is just a possibility, nothing substantial. May be when I feel that I haVe met her before is because I trully have in past life. And lessons are pending with that soul. Could be that when both 2 souls complete task with each other, they become one(unite into bigger 'i'), and then they catch a new soumate-pair that are one to learn and grow further. Grave(a thought only)
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Post by Edina on Mar 23, 2005 18:02:50 GMT -5
Thanks for registering! Welcome to the board!! Well, that's my reality of it... To me, that would be voluntarily giving up on living life to the fullest. And that IS sacrificing in my book. I wouldn't want to change my partner or him to change for me, and vice versa. I'm not sure how you meant this, but if I got it right, I can only say that in my case a two-way street has never worked out. Of course, I can only speak from my experience.
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Post by Thinker on Mar 24, 2005 3:14:29 GMT -5
Thanks for registering! Welcome to the board!! Thank you To me, that would be voluntarily giving up on living life to the fullest. And that IS sacrificing in my book. I wouldn't want to change my partner or him to change for me, and vice versa. That depends somuch on what you get in return for it. At the moment you meet your soulmate, you are abt to find that there has been something missing in your Life all along. The addition that this Soulmate gives to your Life surpasses all so-called sacrifices that you have to make. I don't want my partner to change for me either; I accept my Soulmate for who and what she is. Totally, without hesitation and without second thoughts. And on a spiritual level that works out, always. But in real-life, practical situations sometimes you have to make compromises. But I don't call those compromises sacrifices. I'm not sure how you meant this, but if I got it right, I can only say that in my case a two-way street has never worked out. Of course, I can only speak from my experience. Apology, I don't mean to kick you against the leg, but how can you make a relationship work if there's only one-way traffic? The way you put it, you make it sound like you think only of yourself (even if you DO have a point, in the end). How about communication? How about respecting eachother's wishes?
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Post by Bluebird on Mar 24, 2005 4:29:15 GMT -5
When two people want to grow together and wish the best and all love for each other, compromises are not sacrifices. There cannot be a situation where both respect each other and a solution cannot be found without one sacrificing too much. If it's about a career or something else material, perhaps the situation in question turns out to be good for a new start, instead of being stuck in same old, same old? In the end, what kind of situation between two souls would demand such a heavy sacrifice on the levels that really matter: love, spiritual growth and understanding?
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